Self Preservation...

This is when I started to see God's plan went back years. The girl had a friend whose mom had gone to law school. So, she asked for her number so she could get legal advice. This new lawyer swept in and protected her new client. It turns out that the lawyer is my up the street neighbor. She really did help and she protected her client. Had she never gone to law school and known us from being neighbors, she wouldn't have been there for this girl. So, girl's parents are in self preservation mode. My husband I are literally thinking from hour to hour as this is so far beyond our comprehension that we can barely focus. The lawyer and her partner call my husband and ask if we are on board with the proposal? We say, we have no idea what you're talking about. The girl's mom is due back home as her month "cooling" off period is about up. She is upset and panicked as she knows she cannot be there when she gets home. So, the lawyer's meet at our house with this proposal. We have the documents here which I'm not going to scan  but they basically say, they'll let her leave if she promises not to press charges on mom and brother. Mom, dad and brother all sign this document. I was sitting in the chair in my family room still in my scrubs from work, thinking what in the world is happening? They're just going to give us their kid as long as she doesn't press domestic violence charges and rape charges and as long as she doesn't talk? This was the twilight zone. Literally! Who does this? I remember thinking people think this mom/coach is so great. She has amazing Facebook posts and she's happy. "It's a great day to have a great day." Well is it a great day to just not try and help your family? Who are these monsters? They never came to us. They never once tried to reconcile with their child. Not one time! Never! To this day it makes me so angry. But at this stage, we were thinking that the girl needed to be safe and of course we would say yes. I do however remember thinking, and seeing my life flash before my eyes. I had already raised a daughter and that's no easy task! I mean, yeh, Rick was here but mom's shelter dad's from a lot of girly drama. Can I really go through girl stuff again? And, we have the boyfriend/girlfriend situation. I didn't like that but she had no one else. Where were other family members? What is wrong with these people?  There was the call. Will you do it? Say no because you've done this and it's really hard and you don't want to do it again. and it could get really really messy. God said you can do this and I will help you. "Trust me." So we did it. We said yes. This girl exposed her family and her narcissistic mother couldn't handle it so she tossed her over board and tried to keep her cheerful reputation up so all of the community would still think she's the best ever.  But she just tossed her only daughter. I know daughters are hard and teenage daughters are even harder but you never ever toss them overboard. Never.

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